The first thing we do is understand the dynamic. Then we get a good handle on when the dynamic kicks in. Once we have this sorted, we agree on and practice new behaviours that can be done the moment the dynamic begins.

I will help you come to grips with where and how you trigger each other. It usually happens so fast, that before you know it, you are in the same old argument or a cold standoff.

And it's only in this moment when it is happening, that you can change it. It's hard and it takes more than awareness and understanding - you both have to actually behave differently.